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Proposing with a Temporary Ring – How to Do It Right

Reasons to propose with temporary ring

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Few things in life are as nauseatingly exciting as the idea of asking the love of your life for his/her hand in marriage. However, the pressure of choosing the perfect ring to accompany the big question is sometimes too much that it ruins the whole blissful experience.

There are a lot of factors to consider when picking the perfect proposal ring. You might think that as long as you get the size right, you’re good. Bear in mind, though, that you’re giving your fiancé-to-be something that they’re supposed to wear forever as a token of your commitment. It has to be something he/she actually likes to look at, show off, and sport every day.

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If you’re lucky, your lover would have a Pinterest board that should narrow down your search for the perfect ring to about three dozen rings. If you’re confident you can pick the right one, then by all means, go ahead, but if you’re feeling antsy about the choice, then proposing with a temporary ring might be your best bet.

In recent years, the idea of proposing with a proxy or loaner ring has become more and more popular. Here are some of the best reasons you might want to propose with a placeholder engagement ring.

Reasons to Propose with a Placeholder Engagement Ring

Choosing a ring together is romantic.

couple engagement ring shopping together

Some people think those who propose with a temporary ring are too lazy or too unthoughtful. However, it’s absolutely romantic to want to pick a ring together with your beloved. This way, you can be 100% sure your partner would be getting something they truly love instead of giving him/her something they’re forced to like just because it’s the one you chose for them.

More time to save up for the perfect ring.

You don’t have to wait years to propose if you are sure about committing to the person you love right now. A lot of people delay the big moment because they’re still saving up for the perfect ring.

If you have been together for quite a while, delaying the inevitable might breed feelings of insecurity and doubt in your partner, and you don’t want to seem like you’re disinterested in taking your relationship to the next level just because of any temporary financial difficulties.

All it takes is a temporary ring and a promise that you’re going to work hard for the ring you truly want to give the love of your life to make these negative feelings go away.

Allows you to plan a more elaborate proposal.

Proposing with a temporary ring

If your partner has always dreamed about getting engaged in Maldives or right in front of the Eiffel Tower, it might take you years just saving up for both the trip and the ring. A temporary ring could give you the freedom to whisk your beloved away for the vacation of his/her dreams without breaking the bank. 

Trust me, it will take you years to prepare for the perfect wedding anyway, so you will have all the time in the world to save up for the “forever ring” after your picturesque proposal.

Less pressure.

It’s absolutely nerve-wracking to ask someone to spend eternity with you. You will inevitably have a million things on your mind for the big day, and you have to shave off some of that stress if you want to have enough gas in the tank to actually string the words that would make you happy for the rest of your life. 

Going in there with a temporary ring will at least allow you to quit worrying about whether or not your fiance-to-be will like the ring you are presenting. That’s one less thing to worry about on your engagement day.

How to Propose with a Temporary Ring

Man putting a ring on her girlfriend's finger

It’s important to note that proposing with a temporary ring will always be different from proposing with a forever ring. Along with the benefits we discussed above, proposing with a placeholder will require more planning, more care, and more thought. Otherwise, you might end up disappointing your paramour so much that they start running away before you can explain that you’re only presenting them with a temporary bling. Here’s how you do it right:

1- Pick a beautiful ring

Just because you decided to propose with a temporary ring, doesn’t mean any ring will do. You still want to keep it within the lookbook that you would use if you were already picking the actual ring. The goal is to look for an affordable placeholder ring, not an ugly one. After all, you still want her face to light up, not drop to the ground, when you do get down on one knee to pull out the ring, right? 

2- Work the explanation seamlessly into your proposal speech

I hope this goes without saying, but you literally have to inform your other-half-to-be that what you’re giving him/her is a placeholder. You have to be perfectly clear why you came up with that choice, too. This might make your proposal speech a little longer than intended, but you can’t have it any other way. Here are some ideas on how you can work the explanation into your speech:

“This ring may be temporary, but my love for you is eternal. Will you spend the rest of your life with me…right after we pick out a forever engagement ring?”

“This is a relationship between equals. I will always value your judgment, so you would have to help me pick out a better ring than this one, but first, do say yes to this: Will you make me the happiest person on Earth by marrying me?”

“I searched far and wide for a ring that is as beautiful and brilliant as you, my love, but it was as impossible as the sun setting on the East…so we will have to settle with finding something you like…right after you promise to be mine, forever.”

Feel free to use any one of these cheesy lines or come up with one of your own. The important thing is that you communicate your good intentions in getting a placeholder ring.

3- Actually take her to buy a forever ring

The final step you have to take is to keep true to your word. Just because your lover said yes and your proposal was a success, doesn’t mean you can completely forget about taking him/her to get the actual ring you promised. It might take years to make good of your promise, especially if your reason for proposing with a temporary ring is that you needed more time to save for a forever ring, but you surely don’t want to start your marriage with a failed vow, right?

Wrapping Up

There you have it – all the good reasons to consider proposing with a placeholder ring, and a few tips on how to make it work. Hopefully, this article helped you get a clearer picture for the kind of proposal you want to plan. Oh, and congratulations, by the way!

To learn more about choosing the right type of engagement ring, check out our articles on non-diamond engagement rings, dainty engagement rings and eco-friendly engagement rings.