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9 Ways to Give a Promise Ring and Wow Her

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Promise rings are a popular way to showcase your commitment and love, without all the societal expectations. What makes a promise ring truly unique is that it’s completely customizable, and there aren’t any established rules or expectations that come with it. While this gives you flexibility, it also means that there are no guidelines with giving the ring. It’s completely up to you how you want to hand over that special ring.

Because promise rings indicate a serious level of commitment or a special promise between a couple, it’s a good idea to make it a memorable moment, one that you’ll remember with a smile.

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If you’re stumped as to how to give your special someone the promise ring, here are 15 ideas to inspire you.

What Not to Do

Before we get to the main section of the article, here what NOT to do when planning your promise ring moment.

1- Don’t go overboard. 

Giving someone a promise ring is a special moment and an important stage in a relationship. However, don’t go overboard. If you go the whole nine yards for the promise ring, you’re going to find it hard to top that when it comes to the wedding proposal. Keep it simple yet memorable, hinting at what is to come in the future.

2- Don’t leave room for misunderstandings.

Make sure both you and your significant other both know that this is a commitment ring, not an engagement or wedding ring. If not, you can end up with a cringy situation with someone feeling hurt. To this end, it’s best to avoid going down on one knee.

3- Make sure you follow through on your promises.

Don’t make promises you don’t intend to, or can’t, keep. For example, don’t say you’ll marry him or her in the future if you’re not sure about that. Make your commitment and intentions clear.

4- Don’t give her a promise ring if you know she wants an engagement ring.

If you’ve been dating for a while, you know she wants to get married, or the two of you are no longer in your early twenties, giving her a promise ring might actually be a disappointing experience for her. She might be expecting a wedding proposal instead of a commitment. In this case, consider carefully before giving her the promise ring. If you aren’t ready to give her an engagement ring, avoid disappointment by giving your girlfriend a different type of jewelry.

How to Give a Promise Ring

Now that we’ve had a look at what not to do, here are 9 ways to give a promise ring in a memorable way.

1- Pick a special date

Special date

Consider giving the ring on a day like Valentine’s, Christmas, the recipient’s birthday or a special anniversary, like your first year. You can have the ring sitting in a beautiful ring box and surprise her. However, don’t forget to explain what the ring means. This will ensure that it’s not confused with an engagement ring.

2- Choose a special location

Special location

Just like a special date, a special location that means something to you both is a great place to whip the ring box out. Think about the special places you share – where you went on your first date, where you first kissed or took a memorable walk. This will make the memory of giving the promise ring truly special as it links back to an important place for you both.

 3- Plan a scavenger hunt

Scavenger hunt

Who doesn’t love a well-planned scavenger hunt? Whether it’s one that journeys within your home and garden, or across a city, there are endless ways to make a scavenger hunt fun and intriguing. It takes work and planning – you will have to create a map detailing the steps they have to take to get to the ring. To heighten the intrigue, don’t tell them what the goal of the hunt is, instead giving them clues to make them

This might sound like a lot of work, but it’s worth the fun and at the end, your prize is that you get to see his or her face light up when they find the ring. You can always involve a best friend if you need a bit of help.

4- Keep it practical – buy the ring together

Buy ring together

This is the most practical and still romantic way to go about this. Talk about the importance of the commitment you want to make, ensure that you both are on the same page, and then go shopping for the ring together. This eliminates any awkward scenarios – such as misunderstandings about the purpose of the ring, choosing the wrong ring size or the wrong ring style. Many people appreciate this practical approach.

5- Choose an amazing experience

Think skydiving, hot air ballooning, bungee jumping, a special concert, or a unique destination. The idea is to wow them with the ring at one of the most memorable moments of their lives. However, this one only works if you know that they’ll like the experience you choose. If your partner is somebody who is afraid of heights, maybe skydiving isn’t for them. Think over what they’ve said in the past and anything they’ve mentioned.

6- Write a song declaring your feelings.

Writing song for promise ring

This might sound a little cheesy, but if you’re the musical sort, it can be a great option. You can write a song from scratch or modify the lyrics to his or her favorite song. The idea is to declare your feelings, intentions and state the promise that you’re making. If you’re not musical, but have a way with words, why not write a poem?

7- A fortune cookie promise.

Finding a ring in your fortune cookie is something you won’t forget. If you can, have your promise written as your fortune – something like “This ring is a symbol of my love for you and my commitment to our relationship”. This way, she’ll be able to read your promise loud and clear – no misunderstandings.

8- Trick her with silly packaging.

If you give her a ring box, she’ll know it’s a ring – duh. But try tricking her by giving her the ring in packaging that she just won’t be expecting. Think placing the ring in a matchbox.

Another favorite way to do this is to place the ring box in a larger box then place that second box in another box. You can repeat this about 5 times. When she gets the large box, she’ll be flummoxed and won’t have any idea what’s in it. By the time she gets to the ring box, she’ll probably be mad, but her mood will change when she sees the ring.

9- Breakfast in bed with a promise ring.

Pamper your girl if she likes sleeping in, with a breakfast tray, flowers and the promise ring. You can keep the ring in a small dish or plate and cover it up, so she thinks it’s just another menu item.

What to Say When Giving the Promise Ring

Again, there aren’t any rules on how to do this. It’s best to be honest and state your feelings and intentions clearly.

The important thing is to tell them why you’re giving them a ring, and what you’re pledging. You don’t have to say anything you aren’t sure about or aren’t prepared to say, such as a promise of marriage in the future. Leave that for the engagement ring.

Wrapping Up

While a promise ring isn’t a highly celebrated event in a relationship, it still marks a major milestone. The fact that the two of you are prepared to promise your love and commitment to each other is worthy of a special memory. Putting in the effort to make it an event you’ll remember is well worth it.